7 Things That are EASIER After Having a Child

I’m not going to lie, becoming a mother has been the hardest thing I have ever done. I haven’t slept in seven months. I am always exhausted. I am always on edge. And I look like someone has punched me in both eyes. 

HOWEVER, I have found that there are actually a few things that have become, dare I say it, EASIER since the arrival of my son. To give some hope to the future moms and dads, here are the top seven things that have become easier since having a child……

Crying

I am sooooo good at crying now. I well up at any slightly touching story line…dog needing to be rescued….montages of any kind…..David Attenborough narrating the magical journey of turtles discovering their new land…..and yup, you guessed it, any John Lewis ad ever made. 

obama looking up shedding one tear

More Empathy

I am much more empathetic for the people around me. Oh you’re going to be three hours late to my birthday party because you’re stuck in traffic? No problem. Oh you spilled cheese on your top? Take mine. Oh you you forgot to bring money for lunch? Let me buy that for you. 

baby on the right is looking concerned and holding the shoulder of baby on the right who is crying

Carrying the shopping home

Lugging humungous shopping bags home was the worst part of my week. I would have to take two or three breaks in order to get home, my five minute walk became twenty minutes. Now I have my own personal trolley. I simply slide my bags onto the hinges of the pram and glide my way home as quick as a gazelle through the plains of Africa. 

shopping

Falling asleep

Hello Pillow! I can fall asleep anywhere I please. I used to struggle with bed time, tossing and turning, thinking about all of the day’s activities and tomorrow’s worries. But now, once my head hits that pillow I am gone. 

a man on the tube is sitting in a chair, holding onto the yellow railing, with his nose on the railing falling asleep

Getting drunk

It only takes a glass of wine now to feel a good buzz. Prior to the baby, I would have to drink about two large glasses of wine (okay, okay, five jagerbombs) to feel a little niggle. 

Amy Schumer from the movie Trainwreck, holding her finger up saying "wait a minute" while she chugs a bottle of beer from a brown bag. Her boyfriend is standing behind her looking shocked.

Winning any argument

Finishing any argument with “…remember that time when I pushed your son out of my vagina…” End of argument. I win. 

A woman on the left yelling at a man, with his hands on his head, on the right. White background.

Loving Unconditionally

Since the arrival of my son, I can honestly say I have never found loving someone come so easily. 

A woman holding the hands of her daughter with the letters "Forever" from scrabble game.

What have you found that has become easier since having a child? 

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41 thoughts on “7 Things That are EASIER After Having a Child

  1. Ha ha brilliant. My buggy days have been over for a while but I do still miss the handyness of loading it was shopping, wipes, drinks etc. #kcacols lifeinthemumslane

  2. ha this is brilliant! I can literally sleep anytime and anywhere – I’m all over nap time! And yes to the crying. i never use to and now I found John Lewis adverts emosh! #KCACOLS

  3. This is absolutely great! I’m pretty sure I also have gotten better at all of these things. Although I’ll admit I was already really good at crying and falling asleep anywhere. Totally feel you on the empathy thing. I have found myself also doing kind deeds to random strangers lol. #KCACOLS #TribalLove

  4. Haha, I will definitely miss the pushchair days once they are gone. Not the bit where we struggle on and off public transport and feel endless guilt for taking up space that could be taken up by wheelchairs/other pushchairs/elderly people/anyone else, but definitely the bit where all the shopping fits in the basket underneath. It’s a godsend! Interestingly though, lots of people have said to me that they cry easily since having kids, but for me it’s the other way round. I used to cry at the drop of a hat, and now I am literally rock-hard and emotion-free. It’s bizarre. #KCACOLS

  5. Haha love this! Can relate to all of these things! I was always a bit of an emotional one, crying at adverts but that has increased even more now!! unconditional like be for sure!! Despite sleepless nights still looking at them and wanting to just hold her hand because it’s so cute and tiny!

  6. This is so lovely, I can relate to every single point you made!!! As hard and all as being a parent is, it really is worth every bit of sleep deprivation, grey hairs, wrinkles, etc when you see their happy face every morning. *off to cry in a corner here* #KCACOLS

  7. I think I am an absolute expert at talking in silly voices when narrating stories, and my dance moves now are just in a league of there own. Having your own little storage system for your shopping bags is definitely a big plus! #kcacols

  8. I love this post – it’s all so true! For me the main thing I find that’s changed about me is that I appreciate me-time so much more. A cup of tea and piece of cake in my favourite coffee shop – on my own – becomes an hour of proper pleasure.
    #KCACOLS

  9. So brilliant Meagan! <i totally agree with the shopping. In fact I take my pram everywhere even though both my kids walk just in case I need to use the basked to drop some crap I decided to pick up on the way 🙂 I have also found that now I have kids I can pee whilst cuddling/carrying a child (don't judge but sometimes I just need to pee) x #bigpinklink

  10. Ah Meagan this is gorgeous! When everyone asks me what I’m going to buy for B for his birthday I’m like ‘I gave him a child, guys. I’m done.’ And it’s so true that I cry a lot now, I was at a wedding Saturday and I started crying before anything even happened – just the thought of my friend arriving set me off!! Madness. #bigpinklink

  11. This is 100% relatable! OMG, the crying-it’s so insane.
    My son is 16 months old, so I know it’s not some hormonal aspect-I’m just really really sensitive all of a sudden. ESPECIALLY when it comes to stories having to do with children-oy, I’m a blubbering mess in no time! #KCACOLS

  12. Loved this piece of writing – it’s so true. These are the things that have become easier and I could see myself in all the situations you described. I cry too easily now as well, especially at animal and small children type of stories. If it’s a child-parent kind of sad story, oh my, that’s it, I’ll have the tissue box right next to me. I also miss my stroller now that my kids are much older. I used to carry the baby and put all my shopping in the stroller haha.. I like the argument bit – I think I am going to have try it on my husband from now on. #bigpinklink

  13. So good to see a variation on the “life is shit after children because…”! Really enjoyed this, esp the sleeping at will and crying over NOTHING. Thanks for linking to #chucklemums x

  14. Oh what a lovely post hun, I completely agree with all of these, especially the one about your head hitting the pillow as soon as you get into bed – there is no time to think about the worries of tomorrow. I also find that I’m less stressed and worried about work, there are too many more important things in my life to put that first, or take energy away from my daughter. It’s funny how our outlook on life changes once we have children, I truly believe it’s made me a better person. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  15. Love this, it’s so true! I can also cry and almost anything & am so much empathetic, especially for people who are late…I used to be such a ball breaker haha!! Xx #bigpinklink

  16. Aww I love this post. So true. I spent my university days building up an immunity to a terrible flush if I drank so much as half a glass of wine… I thought it had disappeared forever but after so long dry during one pregnancy after another it’s now back and I go like a beetroot after a sip! Thanks so much for linking with #KCACOLS. We hope you come back next week,

  17. Great post! I love using the buggy to carry everything. The only problem comes when baby decides HE doesn’t want it to carry him. #kcacols

  18. I love the argument one – it’s so true! My husband was pushing our daughter on her trike the other day and then said ‘I think it’s Mummy’s turn to push now’ and I was like ‘I pushed you into this world, Daddy can push you round it’. Boom – argument won. #bloggerclubuk

  19. I did wonder what this post would include when I clicked on the link, but was nodding, and laughing, along straight away when I started reading it! I’ll have to remember that comeback next time I want to win an argument with my husband! x #BloggerClubUK

  20. This is so lovely, funny and very real, when you have a baby, your life have many changes. A pregant woman says “you don’t know what you’re getting yourself into”, you are good at crying and falling asleep anywhere and every time.

  21. Yes!! I cry at everything now. I can’t deal with those ‘Secret life of a 5 year-old’ shows and there is absolutely no chance I can watch Children in need. This si all so true and I’m totally using the “pushing daughter out of vagina” line!! #GlobalBlogging

  22. Love this! I have always been able to carry loads which I have attributed to my 12 years waitressing. It faired me unbelievably well for motherhood. I am slowly loosing the tears but it is taking ages…. Also getting drunk it much easier now, but I think I am generally better at it all round. I know my limit so can smash through it if I want to rather that suddenly find myself over my limit and wonder how I got there. I also handle my emotions better when drunk. The thing I have learnt or gain since becoming a mum is reflexes! I honestly have the reflexes of a cat now. Yesterday I caught my youngest at the exact moment she slipped on the stairs. The other week I even caught a falling glass using just my peripheral vision.
    I am Ninja hear me roar!
    #GlobalBlogging

  23. Lovely and funny post and every bit of it is the truth I tend to win a lot of arguments by saying the same thing and it also gets my partner to wash the dishes works for more than just arguments. #GlobalBlogging

  24. When I read the title the first thing that came to mind is crying… I cry at ANYTHING now. But not important personal stuff, I mean a puppy on the TV #GlobalBlogging

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