Set realistic expectations for yourself. 

I know this contradicts what everyone else tells us, especially my mom, like you can achieve anything if you put your mind to it! You can change the world!

But mom, you have to know what you are physically and mentally capable of. My generation was raised to believe that they can be anything they want to be. Everyone was given a trophy after soccer games even when I did not score a goal, or do anything significant for the team.

I remember in my second grade class we were all given gold stars for doing excellent work. So EVERYONE in that class thought they were special. Everyone in my generation thinks they are special, thinks they are going to be a big star or create something that will change the way people think……………..and maybe a few will. But the majority, will not.

Simply put: it’s just not true, everyone will not be a star. You have your strengths and you have your weaknesses, sometimes you are better than someone else at something and sometimes you are worse than someone else at something.  If everyone goes around thinking they are special and they are the best at everything, all we have is a bunch of egotistical people thinking they are good at something that …..possibly someone else is better at doing.

We begin to set unrealistic goals for ourselves we will never accomplish because someone else can do it better. We have dreams that we will never achieve because we were never told that someone else may be better at it than us. If we were told, “you are good at this,” when we are actually good at something, then maybe we wouldn’t be let down all the time.

This constant praise creates a society where people feel let down all the time because they can’t reach a goal they were not supposed to set for themselves because nobody told them, “you are not good at this, try something else that you can do.


What I am trying to say is that by setting you goals too high, you might not reach them which becomes very discouraging and then you may never want to try to reach them again, so in effect, you lose your dream because you weren’t being realistic with yourself.

I’ve decided to set a new American (or British) dream, and the first part of the new dream is to be realistic. Set goals that are attainable. 

And as Viktor Frankl, author of “Man’s Search for Meaning,” said, 

 “What matters, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment.”

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